Guidelines for parents of teenagers
Jimmy Henderson
Introduction
This article is based on established research and points out the kind of problems that typically arise between parents and teenage children. It also offers parents and care-givers some tips on how to deal with difficult teens.
Build an early relationship
It is important to establish a relationship of trust and openness with children long before they reach adolescence. This prior relationship will form the basis for your continued interaction during the teenage years and explains why step-parents may experience difficulties with teenagers they have not known as small children.
Values
As parents we all try to instil good moral and spiritual values in our children. However, these values, which can include guidance on sexual matters, also need to be imparted early on. Unfortunately, with even our best intentions and efforts, we may have to accept that times have changed and that most teenagers would have had some sexual experience before they eventually settle into a long-term relationship or marry. This does not mean that we as parents have failed in our duty, or that we have to accept or even encourage what we regard as bad life-choices, as ultimately the new generation of young adults must take responsibility for their own actions.
Peer pressure
The power of peer pressure relates to the teenager’s need for acceptance and respect by their peers and many of the bizarre changes in behaviour and dress during adolescence are all part of the new self-image. Peer relationships can be beneficial, in that they help the teen to develop social, coping and life-skills. One should therefore not be too prescriptive with regard to these relationships, except in cases where a teenager is at risk of being influenced by those involved in criminal or drug activities within his or her circle of friends.
Once again, the ability of your teenager to resist peer pressure depends heavily on the strength of your early relationship with him or her. This absolutely essential task of building a good relationship of love, trust and respect should begin when your children are young and trusting. Once established, this relationship of trust will carry through the teenage years when their priorities shift to peer and partner relationships (boyfriends or girlfriends) and should enable you to have some influence over their choice of friends. The problem is that this relationship may not have been properly established, and this is why it is so difficult for step-parents to guide a teen who has not known them since early childhood.
Unfortunately, drinking is one of the side-effects of peer pressure, wishing to conform, or simply to appeal ‘cool’ to friends. Like sex, this is one of the issues that need to be discussed and addressed early on before children reach their teens, as it is difficult to monitor once they are out on their own.
The love-hate situation
During adolescence teenagers develop very powerful needs, including the need for more freedom and independence, to be recognised and respected as a person who can make his or her own decisions, and acceptance (especially from peers), but also from parents and other adults. And it is usually when these needs are not recognised or satisfied that they become aggressive and rebellious.
I do not believe that teenagers going through this phase love their parents any less, they are only shifting their needs and priorities towards peer acceptance and being part of the ‘cool crowd’. This is all part of discovering their identity. This is a process of self-discovery in which they are trying to find their place in the social scheme of things and unfortunately, they will challenge rules and limits. In this case, parents can respond by acknowledging these needs and shifting their approach more to one of discussion, guidance and co-operation with regard to rules and limits rather than expecting total and unconditional obedience.
Typical emotional responses
Teens ride a roller coaster of good and bad feelings. If things go well they feel upbeat and if things go awry they can easily become very angry, frustrated and depressed. They have not yet developed the skills to process the ups and downs of everyday life smoothly. This makes them very open to mood swings and they are often ruled by their emotions. It is therefore quite possible that the values and principles with which they have been raised will be challenged and this could result in bad decisions with regard to money, friends and relationships.
Love from actions and support
Teenagers experience love from your acceptance and support. In other words, by exercising reasonableness, patience and providing encouragement and practical assistance as far as possible, including transport and the essentials they need to build up their self-image, self-esteem and confidence, which you can help them through this important phase in their lives.
Your teenager is attempting to build up a self-image of being an independent person and places a high value on privacy, independence and personal space. One practical tip would always be to try to give teenagers their own rooms, which they can personalise and which can become their sanctuary in times of distress.
With my own children when they were teenagers, I found it useful to give them this space and to change my role from being a ‘neurotic and concerned parent’ to one of being a reliable means of support. Always there when needed. Years later, I found that this approach had been appreciated, and the once rebellious teenager became once again a mature and loving individual.
Discipline and interference
As I said earlier, if a relationship of trust and respect with a teenager has been established early, he or she will generally be more open and honest about concerns and feelings, which makes it possible for the parent to play a more meaningful role in giving guidance and direction. However, many teens are not always prepared to share their innermost feelings with their parents and sometimes the secret is timing, knowing when to approach and when to confront on an issue.
Parents should therefore try and pre-empt later problems by re-negotiating rules early in their teens, such as when they turn 13. Teens respond well to positive reinforcement (a reward system) and one can reward them with privileges such as increased pocket-money, later curfews and fashionable clothes with each major birthday (13, 16 and 18).
Possible guidelines
For example, agree on a 10’oclock curfew for 13 year olds provided they are in a group and you, or another parent, provides the transport to and from the venue, such as a mall or movie-house. Sixteen year olds could be allowed out on their own with a 12 o’clock curfew, depending on safety concerns (A girl should preferably be in a group). From 18 onwards there should be very few restrictions on your teenager and you can reward them with their own reliable car if you can afford it. This sort of positive involvement in their lives makes it possible to give guidance without being too invasive or directive.
Once again, parents need to deal with this problem in terms of the age and maturity of the teenager. I believe that from about the age of 16, most teenagers (boys especially), will experiment with alcohol and simply discussing this matter in a mature manner might be the best alterative. Once again, this does not mean that we have to accept, encourage or even condone underage drinking, but understand that it does happen and simply do our best to point out the dangers, especially to teenage girls, who are more vulnerable when drinking.
As I said, teenagers generally do not respond well to instructions or threats, even if they are well-intentioned, and once again my advice would be to remain supportive. In this regard, support should include positive words of encouragement, building up his or her self-esteem by pointing out those attributes which make him or her wonderful and special.
When to intervene
Unfortunately, responsibility and common sense usually only comes later through life experience and it is certainly a stage that all young people have to go through. Once again, take a step back and simply be there with whatever support you can offer. Gain strength from the fact that it is something that all parents have to face.
If your teenager’s behaviour does get out of hand, try and find someone whom he or she respects to talk to him/ her. This may be a teacher, a counsellor or simply a family member with whom he or she has a good relationship.
With regard to actual intervention and interference in their social lives, I believe that the only time parents should comment or intervene is when their behaviour is affecting their school or college work.
Teenage depression
Most teenagers experience mood swings, but there are certain factors and situations which make matters worse and could lead to teenage depression. Children are born with personality traits and physical attributes which make them more or less popular with their peers. And any social rejection they experience will certainly be a factor. Ironically the family itself is another. Research has shown that unreasonable expectations, household conflict, abuse or neglect on the part of parents can only worsen the situation, and this is why effective parenting is so important. Be alert to the warning signs which could suggest teenage depression;
• Withdrawing socially
• A sudden drop in school performance
• Increased moodiness, anger and irritability
• Substance abuse (drugs/alcohol)
• A very low self-esteem and feelings of sadness, unworthiness or hopelessness
• Negative thinking and talking about suicide to friends and family
Some of these behaviours may appear normal for teenagers, but here we are referring to sudden and severe changes in thinking, emotions and actions which are not characteristic of your child. The secret is to remain involved and know what is happening in their lives. Cultivate an awareness which will enable you to recognise these early warning signs and be prepared to call in expert help if your feel that the situation is serious.
Drug problems
Going through their possessions may not be the best method of dealing with the matter of drugs, as this could do serious damage to any existing relationship. There are other means of establishing drug use, such as looking for symptoms.
I already mentioned some of these symptoms as warning signs of the risk behaviour usually associated with teenage depression, such as sudden changes in mood and behaviour. In the case of drugs, this could also be accompanied by hyperactivity or low activity, a loss of contact with reality (being spaced out), changes in sleeping patterns and an associated drop in school performance. In such cases a tough-love approach would be justified, as drug abuse is a serious situation which could lead to imprisonment and even depression and suicide. If there is any suspicion of drug abuse, it should be addressed at an early stage in a calm manner, but followed up with regular checks and even medical tests if necessary. However, parents should also not jump quickly to conclusions regarding drug use, as there may be other reasons for their behaviour.
Jimmy Henderson is a trained trauma counsellor with a master’s degree in psychology. He is also the author of a number of self-help books and articles –see www.jimmyhendersonbooks.com
Monday, April 16, 2012
Saturday, January 21, 2012
State of mind and longevity
By Jimmy Henderson
‘The challenge is not to manage time, but to manage ourselves.’
Steven Covey
Medical science has shown that stress can result in a variety of illnesses which can reduce one’s life expectancy. In other words, we can rightfully say that a positive and balanced state of mind is important for longevity. This state of mind would be linked to emotional wellness, which can be explained as being able to cope with the normal ups and downs of daily life. Reaching a state of emotional wellness also means that we have dealt with most of the pain and regrets from the past and cleared our consciousness of unhelpful emotions such as anger, fear and resentment.
The following are a number of important guidelines which could be applied in reaching this balanced state of mind and consciousness.
Cultivate a sense of philosophical detachment from matters that are not of immediate concern
Only those situations, thoughts and feelings that are of crucial and immediate importance should receive focus and attention. We should strive to keep our consciousness clear and uncluttered, and this means avoiding unnecessary anxiety over complex political, family or social intrigues and dramas over which we have no real control, such as crime, corruption and other global issues. However, this sense of detachment should always apply only to issues and not to our relationships. In fact, thoughts of love and compassion are very beneficial to our state of mind.
Remain peaceful amidst the storms of life
‘We keep our minds so busy that we fail to hear the passing whispers of angels’
J. Henderson
Keeping our minds clear and peaceful also reduces stress and also creates the space for introspection and insight. An important part of emotional wellness is being able to maintain an inner stillness, balance and control. Eckhart Tolle calls this ‘acceptance’. In this regard, inner peace is not achieved by exercising will-power or by avoiding life’s important challenges, but rather by consciously being able to let go of unwanted thoughts and emotions. The following is an example of a simple meditation exercise which will help to induce a peaceful state of mind:
Sit quietly and comfortably, close your eyes and begin to breathe slowly to a count of one to five. Focus on nothing else but the counting (either aloud or in your mind). Breathe in, 1,2,3,4,5 hold your breath, 1,2,3,4,5 breathe out, 1,2,3,4,5 hold your breath, 1,2,3,4,5 breathe in, 1,2,3,4,5, and so on. Continue with the counting and breathing until your mind is free of all thoughts and completely relaxed and quiet.
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Staying positive
‘Joy is the dynamic aspect of Being. When the creative power of the universe becomes conscious of itself, it manifests as joy.’
Eckhart Tolle
Emotional and psychological wellness is also related to positive thinking and gratitude. We should begin thinking of ourselves as empowered beings with choices and not as victims of our past circumstances. By focusing on who we really are, and our true purpose in life, other issues will become insignificant. We should also continually strive to experience joy and constantly express our gratitude and enthusiasm. The following are a few positive affirmations that will help in this regard:
‘Thank you for the joy of self-awareness’
‘Thank you for the joy of being alive’
Focus on the present
A healthy state of mind can also be maintained by a change of focus from the pain of the past to a real experience of the present. This means being willing to forgive and let go of old emotional or psychological baggage. Being ‘present’ (or mindful) in any situation also results in a sense of wonder and moments of magic, such as stopping to admire the sweet scent or beauty of a single flower.
Keep physically active
Physical exercise has been shown to contribute to one’s general health, counter the effects of aging, as well as to improve one’s state of mind. Yoga and tai chi are particularly suitable for more mature persons, being comprised of physical movements and exercises that improve balance, breathing and body tone, as well as producing feelings of well-being.
References :
Barlow, D.H.& Durand, V.M. (2002). Abnormal psychology: An integrated approach. (3rd ed.). Belmont: Wadsworth/Thompson Learning.
Henderson, J.P. (2010). Multi-dimensional Perception. Journeys into different dimensions of reality. Cape Town, South Africa: Kima Global.
Tolle, Eckhart. (2005). A New Earth. USA: Plume books.
Jimmy Henderson is a well-known metaphysical teacher, counsellor and radio talk show guest from South Africa. He is the author of many articles as well as two self-help books working with the power of the mind entitled ‘Multi-Dimensional Thinking’ and ‘Multi-Dimensional Perception’ which are available from Amazon.com. His website is www.jimmyhendersonbooks.com
By Jimmy Henderson
‘The challenge is not to manage time, but to manage ourselves.’
Steven Covey
Medical science has shown that stress can result in a variety of illnesses which can reduce one’s life expectancy. In other words, we can rightfully say that a positive and balanced state of mind is important for longevity. This state of mind would be linked to emotional wellness, which can be explained as being able to cope with the normal ups and downs of daily life. Reaching a state of emotional wellness also means that we have dealt with most of the pain and regrets from the past and cleared our consciousness of unhelpful emotions such as anger, fear and resentment.
The following are a number of important guidelines which could be applied in reaching this balanced state of mind and consciousness.
Cultivate a sense of philosophical detachment from matters that are not of immediate concern
Only those situations, thoughts and feelings that are of crucial and immediate importance should receive focus and attention. We should strive to keep our consciousness clear and uncluttered, and this means avoiding unnecessary anxiety over complex political, family or social intrigues and dramas over which we have no real control, such as crime, corruption and other global issues. However, this sense of detachment should always apply only to issues and not to our relationships. In fact, thoughts of love and compassion are very beneficial to our state of mind.
Remain peaceful amidst the storms of life
‘We keep our minds so busy that we fail to hear the passing whispers of angels’
J. Henderson
Keeping our minds clear and peaceful also reduces stress and also creates the space for introspection and insight. An important part of emotional wellness is being able to maintain an inner stillness, balance and control. Eckhart Tolle calls this ‘acceptance’. In this regard, inner peace is not achieved by exercising will-power or by avoiding life’s important challenges, but rather by consciously being able to let go of unwanted thoughts and emotions. The following is an example of a simple meditation exercise which will help to induce a peaceful state of mind:
Sit quietly and comfortably, close your eyes and begin to breathe slowly to a count of one to five. Focus on nothing else but the counting (either aloud or in your mind). Breathe in, 1,2,3,4,5 hold your breath, 1,2,3,4,5 breathe out, 1,2,3,4,5 hold your breath, 1,2,3,4,5 breathe in, 1,2,3,4,5, and so on. Continue with the counting and breathing until your mind is free of all thoughts and completely relaxed and quiet.
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Staying positive
‘Joy is the dynamic aspect of Being. When the creative power of the universe becomes conscious of itself, it manifests as joy.’
Eckhart Tolle
Emotional and psychological wellness is also related to positive thinking and gratitude. We should begin thinking of ourselves as empowered beings with choices and not as victims of our past circumstances. By focusing on who we really are, and our true purpose in life, other issues will become insignificant. We should also continually strive to experience joy and constantly express our gratitude and enthusiasm. The following are a few positive affirmations that will help in this regard:
‘Thank you for the joy of self-awareness’
‘Thank you for the joy of being alive’
Focus on the present
A healthy state of mind can also be maintained by a change of focus from the pain of the past to a real experience of the present. This means being willing to forgive and let go of old emotional or psychological baggage. Being ‘present’ (or mindful) in any situation also results in a sense of wonder and moments of magic, such as stopping to admire the sweet scent or beauty of a single flower.
Keep physically active
Physical exercise has been shown to contribute to one’s general health, counter the effects of aging, as well as to improve one’s state of mind. Yoga and tai chi are particularly suitable for more mature persons, being comprised of physical movements and exercises that improve balance, breathing and body tone, as well as producing feelings of well-being.
References :
Barlow, D.H.& Durand, V.M. (2002). Abnormal psychology: An integrated approach. (3rd ed.). Belmont: Wadsworth/Thompson Learning.
Henderson, J.P. (2010). Multi-dimensional Perception. Journeys into different dimensions of reality. Cape Town, South Africa: Kima Global.
Tolle, Eckhart. (2005). A New Earth. USA: Plume books.
Jimmy Henderson is a well-known metaphysical teacher, counsellor and radio talk show guest from South Africa. He is the author of many articles as well as two self-help books working with the power of the mind entitled ‘Multi-Dimensional Thinking’ and ‘Multi-Dimensional Perception’ which are available from Amazon.com. His website is www.jimmyhendersonbooks.com
Monday, November 28, 2011
Unfolding consciousness
The unfoldment of consciousness
Introduction
Traditionally, consciousness relates to the use of the senses. In other words, we become conscious of something when we are able to see, hear, smell or touch it. However, consciousness is much more than sense-perception, or merely being ‘self-aware’, and is actually a dynamic state of mind and being able to affects thoughts, decisions, actions and achievements. What makes it it especially important is the fact that consciousness can be manipulated and heightened by meditation, radically improving one’s insight into self, life and reality.
As mystics we know that consciousness can also be experienced as a dynamic ‘envelope’ or field of perception which can be extended indefinitely and even directed at any object or desired situation. By raising and improving the quality (clarity) of consciousness, one moves closer to an experience of the Inner Master (higher self) and the cosmic singularity, known in religious terms as God.
Within the depths of consciousness are housed memories, (some of which are traumatic or unpleasant), cultural, religious or spiritual beliefs, as well as conditioned thoughts and responses. Consciousness can easily be lost in these entanglements, and it is therefore important to keep these pathways clear for the unfoldment of the higher self.
The development of consciousness should occur naturally with maturity, and by learning the lessons that life has to offer. However, the process can be speeded up with more conscious living and a daily commitment to self-development which usually occurs with religious, spiritual or mystical studies and practices. In this regard, I have identified four stages which can be explained (metaphorically) in the form of relationships, able to assist aspirants in the unfoldment of consciousness.
The relationship with self
As previously stated, the process of unfoldment can be hastened by conscious efforts at self-improvement, but equally delayed by negative attitudes, poisonous states of mind or thoughtless actions, as well as sickness and ill-health. It is therefore important to take steps to remain physically, emotionally and mentally healthy, starting with a proper diet and regular exercise. Toxins can also build up due to stress and bad eating habits and regular detoxification is recommended. A lighter, stronger and healthier body is more receptive and better equipped to maintain a high level of consciousness.
Work stress and family drama also serve to entrap consciousness, and it is necessary to create the correct psychological space for introspection and the unfoldment of consciousness. Balance is therefore required, both in one’s career as well as private life. This does not mean prematurely ending a working career, or living in complete isolation from the world, but rather, making some simple lifestyles changes to reduce unnecessary stress, practicing better time management and re-prioritising. It is also necessary to practice relaxation and shift the focus from outer to inner consciousness. In this regard, meditational techniques will aid in cultivating this inner stillness, balance and sense of detachment.
As stated, consciousness has to slowly wind its way through the entanglements of the human mind in order to unfold. This can be more easily facilitated by the removal of all emotional and psychological debris and the attainment of emotional wellness, which can be explained as being able to cope with the emotional ups and downs of daily life. Wellness also suggests that most of the unhelpful emotions from the past, such as anger, fear and resentment have been resolved.
The human body has a natural ability to heal and under the right conditions, minds will also heal and allow consciousness to unfold as it should. This process of healing usually requires the release of guilt, doubts and fears from the past through forgiveness or self-forgiveness, and re-building self-esteem. It is also important to keep the consciousness clear and free of negative thoughts, drama and intrigue which also place limits on its unfoldment. This would involve releasing all thoughts or beliefs that are unhelpful or self-defeating. In some cases this could require the help and assistance of counselors and therapists.
Deeper experiences associated with an unfolding consciousness are dependent on an open mind. Limited beliefs and perceptions about the world and reality therefore set a natural limit to what can be processed. For instance, a lack of belief in higher forms of life and consciousness will limit interaction with spiritual beings. This openness usually requires only a small shift to a more universal paradigm of thought which includes all possibilities for spiritual development.
Research has also shown that deep-seated beliefs about self act as mental rules or instructions to the unconscious mind and influence thinking, decisions and actions. For example, a view of self as an imperfect physical being will limit the experience of higher consciousness. A psychological shift has to be made to a view that is more expansive. Accepting oneself as a multi-dimensional being with an almost limitless potential will redefine the boundaries of inner experience.
The relationship with the unconscious mind
One of the most powerful allies in the process of unfolding consciousness is the unconscious mind. According to research, unconscious processes regulate bodily functions such as breathing and heartbeat, as well as some important mental activities. The unconscious mind is also able to communicate using sensations, impressions, spontaneous thoughts and ideas (intuition) and symbolic images during dreams, imagery (visualization) or visions.
Its role in regulating sensory input using processes of selective perception and attention is less known. Metaphorically, the unconscious mind can be seen as an inner guardian and protector of consciousness, filtering incoming information and regulating inner experiences. This reminds one of the legend of the Sphinx which guarded the entrance to the Greek city of Thebes. Visitors to the city had to demonstrate commitment, courage and insight in order to be admitted. Similarly, under the right conditions of readiness, the unconscious mind will provide access to higher levels of consciousness.
As it represents a different level of mind, it sometimes proves useful to treat the unconscious as a separate entity. In fact, this whole process of building an intimate relationship of trust and cooperation, and gaining access to the inner chambers of higher consciousness, can be seen (metaphorically) as taking a new lover. For example, when wooing a lover one would begin by
communicating a desire for an intimate relationship with sincerity, sweet words and considerate actions. In terms of this metaphor, this would correspond to affirmations suggesting integrity and genuineness. In real-life a suitor would not make much of a first impression if he came across as indecisive and lacking in self-worth. For this reason the affirmations should be also be confident and directed at acknowledging the power of the higher self.
This inner dialogue with the unconscious should be continued during periods of meditation and combined with dramatised scenarios (visualisation) in which it assumes the form of a ‘lover’. Moments of altered consciousness accompanied by unexpected breaths and emotions during these times of contact would be an indication that the unconscious is beginning to respond, and a door to higher consciousness has been opened ( in the same way that a lover would open her door). This should be accompanied by unexpected shifts in the scenes and images spontaneously presenting themselves during visualisation, and marks the passage to inner or psychic sight.
The unconscious ‘lover’ will only finally accept these advances (open the doors to her inner chamber), once the suitor has clearly and adequately communicated his intentions and demonstrated that he is trustworthy, willing and able to assume the responsibility for this new relationship (the experiences and changes that will take place with an unfolding consciousness). This readiness demands a more powerful state of mind and will be demonstrated by the proper application of intentions. An intention is similar to an affirmation, but more powerful. It is set by formulating a single, simple and precise self-instruction or thought, absolutely without any doubt or hesitation, as to exactly what is desired. This can be metaphorically represented as a more direct and insistent approach to the unconscious ‘lover’ in the form of a specific request. Unlike an affirmation, which is usually repeated over and over, an intention is stated only once. It is this single act of pure intent and absolute conviction that sets it apart from an affirmation and which assures the unconscious mind of the aspirant’s preparedness and readiness for the experience.
An intention is most effective when combined with meditation or imagery and can result in an immediate shift in consciousness. However, this depends totally on the quality and strength of the relationship of trust and cooperation that has been established with the subconscious ‘lover’, as it is this which provides the power and impetus for the shift.
After such a period of courtship, the ‘lover’ will open the doors to her innermost chamber, at which time she should be showered with gratitude and appreciation. This opening of the doors to higher perception by the subconscious mind will result in a profound heightening of consciousness during meditation and powerful new inner experiences.
The relationship with the inner master or higher self
A sudden feeling of inspiration or exhilaration, such as that which sometimes takes place during meditation, or when contemplating the beauty of nature, indicates a momentary connection to the higher self. It often helps to see this higher self or inner master as a centre of pure consciousness fed by a multitude of impressions, sensations, thoughts and emotions. Once these outer experiences are stripped away, only the pure state of consciousness remains in which there is nothing, except the simple realisation of one’s existence. This state of unfolded consciousness, without all the trimmings, is also called the ‘I’ or ‘soul’-consciousness. This is not the ego, but the higher source of self which naturally finds expression when the pathway through the mind is clear, uncluttered and transcendent.
The proper use of affirmations and intentions during meditation will allow these ‘moments’ or gaps in the fabric of consciousness to be induced at will. This will usually be marked by a sudden, spontaneous deep breath. This experience provides a brief opportunity for a single, powerful conscious thought relating to the higher self to be introduced directly into the subconscious mind. Metaphorically, this could be seen as extending a spiritual arm and reaching through the veil of consciousness in order to touch the garment of the inner master. During those few seconds it is possible to recall one’s existing connection with Divinity and open to an inflow of consciousness.
The relationship with Spirit
The final important relationship to be established is that with the higher realms of Spirit in the form of celestial beings of light who are willing and able to share of their energy, consciousness and wisdom with those who are aligned with the Divine Will. These associations with advanced spiritual beings are usually necessary to gain access to the highest planes of consciousness. In fact, this guidance and instruction by celestial light-beings is ever-present, but often goes unnoticed due to the many distractions in everyday life.
These intelligences do not normally reveal themselves until one has cultivated a sufficiently responsive mind, strong enough to cope with the responsibilities of higher consciousness and perception. This explains why persons who do not believe in their existence are unlikely to ever see them. Revealing themselves to someone who is unprepared for the experience could do more harm than good, due to the fragility of the human mind. It also shows why it is necessary to have first built up a strong relationship of trust with the subconscious ‘inner guardian’ so that the doors of higher perception can be safely opened.
A relationship with Spirit provides a continuous source of guidance and energy for the unfoldment of consciousness and is established over time through ongoing communication and commitment. During the earlier stages, one is most likely to encounter saints or spirit guides, enlightened personalities who once walked this earth, and some classes of guardian angels. However, later on it is also possible to approach members of the esoteric hierarchy, archangels, thrones and powers and finally, the spiritual masters of the Christ Consciousness.
Contacts with these benevolent spiritual intelligences serve to raise consciousness and increase intuition, which now operates at a much higher level. Guidance and support will be immediate and direct in the form of messages, promptings and instructions taking place during dreams, visions, meditations and imagery.
Conclusion
Finally, the full unfoldment of consciousness requires enormous amounts of psychic energy and the final steps along this path would involve being willing to undergo whatever training and initiations are required. Real-life initiations usually take place during organised ceremonies, as provided by the Order, or on a spiritual level. A spiritual initiation can be described as a symbolic process or ritual occurring during a meditation, lucid dream or vision which involves an invitation by spiritual beings to enter or shift into a new level of understanding or consciousness. Initiations differ in form and content, but share common characteristics or requirements. For instance, they all involve a situation where a choice, choices or a decision has to be consciously made (this distinguishes it from a normal dream or vision), as well as tests in which one has to face and overcome certain obstacles.
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Introduction
Traditionally, consciousness relates to the use of the senses. In other words, we become conscious of something when we are able to see, hear, smell or touch it. However, consciousness is much more than sense-perception, or merely being ‘self-aware’, and is actually a dynamic state of mind and being able to affects thoughts, decisions, actions and achievements. What makes it it especially important is the fact that consciousness can be manipulated and heightened by meditation, radically improving one’s insight into self, life and reality.
As mystics we know that consciousness can also be experienced as a dynamic ‘envelope’ or field of perception which can be extended indefinitely and even directed at any object or desired situation. By raising and improving the quality (clarity) of consciousness, one moves closer to an experience of the Inner Master (higher self) and the cosmic singularity, known in religious terms as God.
Within the depths of consciousness are housed memories, (some of which are traumatic or unpleasant), cultural, religious or spiritual beliefs, as well as conditioned thoughts and responses. Consciousness can easily be lost in these entanglements, and it is therefore important to keep these pathways clear for the unfoldment of the higher self.
The development of consciousness should occur naturally with maturity, and by learning the lessons that life has to offer. However, the process can be speeded up with more conscious living and a daily commitment to self-development which usually occurs with religious, spiritual or mystical studies and practices. In this regard, I have identified four stages which can be explained (metaphorically) in the form of relationships, able to assist aspirants in the unfoldment of consciousness.
The relationship with self
As previously stated, the process of unfoldment can be hastened by conscious efforts at self-improvement, but equally delayed by negative attitudes, poisonous states of mind or thoughtless actions, as well as sickness and ill-health. It is therefore important to take steps to remain physically, emotionally and mentally healthy, starting with a proper diet and regular exercise. Toxins can also build up due to stress and bad eating habits and regular detoxification is recommended. A lighter, stronger and healthier body is more receptive and better equipped to maintain a high level of consciousness.
Work stress and family drama also serve to entrap consciousness, and it is necessary to create the correct psychological space for introspection and the unfoldment of consciousness. Balance is therefore required, both in one’s career as well as private life. This does not mean prematurely ending a working career, or living in complete isolation from the world, but rather, making some simple lifestyles changes to reduce unnecessary stress, practicing better time management and re-prioritising. It is also necessary to practice relaxation and shift the focus from outer to inner consciousness. In this regard, meditational techniques will aid in cultivating this inner stillness, balance and sense of detachment.
As stated, consciousness has to slowly wind its way through the entanglements of the human mind in order to unfold. This can be more easily facilitated by the removal of all emotional and psychological debris and the attainment of emotional wellness, which can be explained as being able to cope with the emotional ups and downs of daily life. Wellness also suggests that most of the unhelpful emotions from the past, such as anger, fear and resentment have been resolved.
The human body has a natural ability to heal and under the right conditions, minds will also heal and allow consciousness to unfold as it should. This process of healing usually requires the release of guilt, doubts and fears from the past through forgiveness or self-forgiveness, and re-building self-esteem. It is also important to keep the consciousness clear and free of negative thoughts, drama and intrigue which also place limits on its unfoldment. This would involve releasing all thoughts or beliefs that are unhelpful or self-defeating. In some cases this could require the help and assistance of counselors and therapists.
Deeper experiences associated with an unfolding consciousness are dependent on an open mind. Limited beliefs and perceptions about the world and reality therefore set a natural limit to what can be processed. For instance, a lack of belief in higher forms of life and consciousness will limit interaction with spiritual beings. This openness usually requires only a small shift to a more universal paradigm of thought which includes all possibilities for spiritual development.
Research has also shown that deep-seated beliefs about self act as mental rules or instructions to the unconscious mind and influence thinking, decisions and actions. For example, a view of self as an imperfect physical being will limit the experience of higher consciousness. A psychological shift has to be made to a view that is more expansive. Accepting oneself as a multi-dimensional being with an almost limitless potential will redefine the boundaries of inner experience.
The relationship with the unconscious mind
One of the most powerful allies in the process of unfolding consciousness is the unconscious mind. According to research, unconscious processes regulate bodily functions such as breathing and heartbeat, as well as some important mental activities. The unconscious mind is also able to communicate using sensations, impressions, spontaneous thoughts and ideas (intuition) and symbolic images during dreams, imagery (visualization) or visions.
Its role in regulating sensory input using processes of selective perception and attention is less known. Metaphorically, the unconscious mind can be seen as an inner guardian and protector of consciousness, filtering incoming information and regulating inner experiences. This reminds one of the legend of the Sphinx which guarded the entrance to the Greek city of Thebes. Visitors to the city had to demonstrate commitment, courage and insight in order to be admitted. Similarly, under the right conditions of readiness, the unconscious mind will provide access to higher levels of consciousness.
As it represents a different level of mind, it sometimes proves useful to treat the unconscious as a separate entity. In fact, this whole process of building an intimate relationship of trust and cooperation, and gaining access to the inner chambers of higher consciousness, can be seen (metaphorically) as taking a new lover. For example, when wooing a lover one would begin by
communicating a desire for an intimate relationship with sincerity, sweet words and considerate actions. In terms of this metaphor, this would correspond to affirmations suggesting integrity and genuineness. In real-life a suitor would not make much of a first impression if he came across as indecisive and lacking in self-worth. For this reason the affirmations should be also be confident and directed at acknowledging the power of the higher self.
This inner dialogue with the unconscious should be continued during periods of meditation and combined with dramatised scenarios (visualisation) in which it assumes the form of a ‘lover’. Moments of altered consciousness accompanied by unexpected breaths and emotions during these times of contact would be an indication that the unconscious is beginning to respond, and a door to higher consciousness has been opened ( in the same way that a lover would open her door). This should be accompanied by unexpected shifts in the scenes and images spontaneously presenting themselves during visualisation, and marks the passage to inner or psychic sight.
The unconscious ‘lover’ will only finally accept these advances (open the doors to her inner chamber), once the suitor has clearly and adequately communicated his intentions and demonstrated that he is trustworthy, willing and able to assume the responsibility for this new relationship (the experiences and changes that will take place with an unfolding consciousness). This readiness demands a more powerful state of mind and will be demonstrated by the proper application of intentions. An intention is similar to an affirmation, but more powerful. It is set by formulating a single, simple and precise self-instruction or thought, absolutely without any doubt or hesitation, as to exactly what is desired. This can be metaphorically represented as a more direct and insistent approach to the unconscious ‘lover’ in the form of a specific request. Unlike an affirmation, which is usually repeated over and over, an intention is stated only once. It is this single act of pure intent and absolute conviction that sets it apart from an affirmation and which assures the unconscious mind of the aspirant’s preparedness and readiness for the experience.
An intention is most effective when combined with meditation or imagery and can result in an immediate shift in consciousness. However, this depends totally on the quality and strength of the relationship of trust and cooperation that has been established with the subconscious ‘lover’, as it is this which provides the power and impetus for the shift.
After such a period of courtship, the ‘lover’ will open the doors to her innermost chamber, at which time she should be showered with gratitude and appreciation. This opening of the doors to higher perception by the subconscious mind will result in a profound heightening of consciousness during meditation and powerful new inner experiences.
The relationship with the inner master or higher self
A sudden feeling of inspiration or exhilaration, such as that which sometimes takes place during meditation, or when contemplating the beauty of nature, indicates a momentary connection to the higher self. It often helps to see this higher self or inner master as a centre of pure consciousness fed by a multitude of impressions, sensations, thoughts and emotions. Once these outer experiences are stripped away, only the pure state of consciousness remains in which there is nothing, except the simple realisation of one’s existence. This state of unfolded consciousness, without all the trimmings, is also called the ‘I’ or ‘soul’-consciousness. This is not the ego, but the higher source of self which naturally finds expression when the pathway through the mind is clear, uncluttered and transcendent.
The proper use of affirmations and intentions during meditation will allow these ‘moments’ or gaps in the fabric of consciousness to be induced at will. This will usually be marked by a sudden, spontaneous deep breath. This experience provides a brief opportunity for a single, powerful conscious thought relating to the higher self to be introduced directly into the subconscious mind. Metaphorically, this could be seen as extending a spiritual arm and reaching through the veil of consciousness in order to touch the garment of the inner master. During those few seconds it is possible to recall one’s existing connection with Divinity and open to an inflow of consciousness.
The relationship with Spirit
The final important relationship to be established is that with the higher realms of Spirit in the form of celestial beings of light who are willing and able to share of their energy, consciousness and wisdom with those who are aligned with the Divine Will. These associations with advanced spiritual beings are usually necessary to gain access to the highest planes of consciousness. In fact, this guidance and instruction by celestial light-beings is ever-present, but often goes unnoticed due to the many distractions in everyday life.
These intelligences do not normally reveal themselves until one has cultivated a sufficiently responsive mind, strong enough to cope with the responsibilities of higher consciousness and perception. This explains why persons who do not believe in their existence are unlikely to ever see them. Revealing themselves to someone who is unprepared for the experience could do more harm than good, due to the fragility of the human mind. It also shows why it is necessary to have first built up a strong relationship of trust with the subconscious ‘inner guardian’ so that the doors of higher perception can be safely opened.
A relationship with Spirit provides a continuous source of guidance and energy for the unfoldment of consciousness and is established over time through ongoing communication and commitment. During the earlier stages, one is most likely to encounter saints or spirit guides, enlightened personalities who once walked this earth, and some classes of guardian angels. However, later on it is also possible to approach members of the esoteric hierarchy, archangels, thrones and powers and finally, the spiritual masters of the Christ Consciousness.
Contacts with these benevolent spiritual intelligences serve to raise consciousness and increase intuition, which now operates at a much higher level. Guidance and support will be immediate and direct in the form of messages, promptings and instructions taking place during dreams, visions, meditations and imagery.
Conclusion
Finally, the full unfoldment of consciousness requires enormous amounts of psychic energy and the final steps along this path would involve being willing to undergo whatever training and initiations are required. Real-life initiations usually take place during organised ceremonies, as provided by the Order, or on a spiritual level. A spiritual initiation can be described as a symbolic process or ritual occurring during a meditation, lucid dream or vision which involves an invitation by spiritual beings to enter or shift into a new level of understanding or consciousness. Initiations differ in form and content, but share common characteristics or requirements. For instance, they all involve a situation where a choice, choices or a decision has to be consciously made (this distinguishes it from a normal dream or vision), as well as tests in which one has to face and overcome certain obstacles.
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Sunday, October 30, 2011
Interpreting visions, dreams or spontaneous visualisation using symbols
By Jimmy Henderson
Symbols are visual forms, patterns, objects, images or even words which carry a deeper meaning and stand in for or represent something else. They are also keys for communicating with, and unlocking the doors of our subconscious minds, and being charged with meaning and emotion, can lead to powerful sensations, impressions and moments of insight.
Each of our personal symbols or images represents a particular memory from our past or a thought, idea, emotion, concern or need. Working with this symbol can trigger the original experience.
Our own set of symbols form a ‘personal code’ and examining dreams is therefore an excellent way of deciphering this code, as they are also assembled using these symbols. When we dream, our subconscious minds are communicating with us by presenting symbolic images in a dramatised and metaphorical form, revealing our innermost needs, fears, conflicts and concerns. This can also happen during spontaneous imagery (visualisation) as well as visions, once again due to the action of our subconscious minds, so the same rules of interpretation will apply (Spontaneous visualisation, or spontaneous imagery, occurs when symbols, figures or changes present themselves in our mental scene spontaneously without our conscious control. This usually happens after many months of working with visualisation).
Symbolism is also applied by our minds when detecting and interpreting the characteristics of incoming energy, whether from other persons or spiritual beings. In other words, any energy impression or presence will also be interpreted in symbolic images using the same process of symbolic interpretation. For example, we may experience different levels of consciousness and power in terms of degrees of light or the size of the figure, in the case of angels or guides. Personality characteristics would probably be revealed by the appearance of the figure (seen as friendly or stern) and so on.
A vision, dream, lucid dream or spontaneously presented visualisation scene therefore contains elements or clues to its message and meaning hidden within its context, structure, form and composition and it is important to be able to identify and interpret these clues.
This can also apply to readings involving other persons as well, but obviously, during these readings, the symbols will not relate to self, but to the other person. There are a number of simple rules that should be remembered in this regard:
• The different symbols, representations and images in our dreams, visions and imagery are formed from our own storehouse of memories and experiences
• Our visions, dreams and imagery will always be assembled using our present paradigm of thinking. In other words, the framework of ideas, beliefs and values through which we each view the world. These paradigms can be scientific, religious or humanistic
• The actual structure of our dreams, visions and spontaneous images is very important. Within each there will be a number of levels or different dimensions, each having its own set of symbols and meanings. Using a process of self-questioning we can unpack the personal meanings that they have for us.
The first dimension : The background of the dream /vision/scene
This should suggest the context or theme of the message.
In this regard, we should ask ourselves the following questions:
‘Was it a recognisable or a strange scene?’
‘Was the scene indoors or outdoors?’
‘Was it light or dark?’
What we see as the background is only a clue to the underlying theme of the
dream/vision/imagery and should not always be taken literally. The idea is find a connection between the background of the scene and our own present circumstances, needs or state of mind (or that of the other person in the case of a reading), by looking at the symbolism involved
Examples:
The sea can be a symbol for the ebb and flow of everyday life and a dream playing out
against the backdrop of the sea would probably suggest a problem or situation arising
in our normal day-to-day lives, one which needs to be resolved.
A scene in a desert (isolated and desolate), may suggest a situation in which we feel
isolated and alone and are seeking assistance or understanding.
A scene playing out in semi-darkness may be indicating a crisis (we are having trouble
seeing our way forward).
Second dimension : The layout of the dream/vision/imagery
The immediate surroundings as seen in the scene provide more information on our present personal situation, state of mind or outlook on the world. In this regard, we need to ask ourselves the following questions:
‘Was there a building in my dream?’
‘What were the characteristics of the building?’
‘Were the windows large or small?
For example:
In ‘looking out’ onto the world, we would normally use the windows of our homes or
offices. And in our dreams, any building in which we find ourselves would be symbolic
(in this case, a metaphor) of ‘where we are’ at the moment.
Consider the following:
A small window could suggest that we have a limited outlook on life
A dark and damp building could relate to our being in an unpleasant situation or having
a negative view of the world
A building or house in shambles could suggest that our present situation, state of mind
or outlook, is chaotic
If there was no building in the dream, vision or imagery, then the message is probably related to some other issue.
Third dimension : The activity
The next symbolic category is the activity taking place in the dream/vision or spontaneous imagery. The type of drama, scenario or situation that is being played out, reveals the content of the message (such as unresolved needs or issues). In this case we need to relate the activity symbolically (metaphorically) to our current situation (or that of our client).
Consider the following examples:
A scene involving travel could be a call for change, the broadening of our boundaries or
the opening of our minds.
A battle or conflict could be referring to a similar conflict situation within ourselves
Any threatening scenario may be a unconscious warning of a matter that requires
resolution urgently, something which is a threat to our mental well-being or inner peace
Fourth dimension : The actual figures and characters presented
Objects or persons (characters) in dream scene, a vision or spontaneous imagery usually represent aspects which relate to ourselves (or archetypes based on our own personalities) (As already stated, during readings with other persons, the figures and objects will not relate to self but to our clients. And in the case of readings, the images can sometimes be more literal).
In all cases, we should ask ourselves the following questions:
‘Was I alone in my dream or were there others?
‘Did I see myself clearly or merely a figure that in some way resembled me?’
‘What aspect of my personality does the figure suggest?’
Identify the attributes of the characters involved.
Were they large or small?, aggressive or loving?, threatening or supportive?
Consider the following examples:
A poor, abused and helpless child could suggest a wounded ‘inner child’ (archetype).
A richly dressed, opulent figure could symbolically point to a desire for riches or even a
trait of greed embodied in an archetypal form (we need to look at the context and the
activities)
We should also examine the type of interaction taking place between ourselves and the figure(s).
Consider the following example:
A battle with another person in a dream could suggest a conflict, weakness or issue
within ourselves that needs to be resolved or overcome.
Fifth Dimension : Objects
Each object in the scene will have a particular symbolic significance which will add detail to
the final meaning of the scene. Objects can often be interpreted in terms of their practical uses or effects in everyday life and applied (metaphorically) to our present situation or path in life.
Consider the following examples:
A large boulder appearing in our path would suggest an obstacle to be overcome (in real-
life one would actually have to climb over the boulder).
A crossroads would suggest a decision to be made.
Once again, the guideline is to consider what we would do in real life if confronted with such a situation or object and rephrase the answer in a symbolic (metaphorical) form. These symbolic interpretations of the background, the layout of the scene, the activities, characters and objects and the meanings we have attached to them, reveal our personal symbolic codes.
Archetypes
By Jimmy Henderson
Archetypes can be described as an accumulation of drives, unfulfilled dreams and desires, suppressed wishes and even aspects of our personalities that need improvement. They are found deep in the subconscious areas of our minds and often appear to us during dreams, meditation or advanced imagery as human or partially human figures due to our mind’s ability to transform energy patterns into recognisable forms using our symbolic processes. In fact, many of the first figures appearing to us during meditation and visualisation will be our own archetypes.
They have an energy basis and an elemental consciousness (derived from our own consciousness) and any area of our lives in which there are unfulfilled desires and feelings can form an archetype and tie up much of our energy. For instance, suppressed feelings of love could give rise to the archetype of ‘the lover’, those parts of us that still require nurturing may gather as our ‘inner child’ and unfortunately, aspirations that have been frustrated and distorted during our lives could accumulate into in a more negative form as a down-and-out ‘victim’ of circumstance.
In order to clear the way for higher consciousness, unwanted archetypes can be balanced or freed using meditation and advanced processes of imagery and their blocked energy released. However, this requires us to work directly with them and this can sometimes be disturbing, as some can appear unpleasant. We will therefore need to put aside our doubts and fears and proceed with total confidence and need to remember that they are only repressed or hidden parts of our own personalities.
The process
If you wish to proceed with clearing and balancing archetypal energy, begin with a meditation to relax and clear your mind. Set an intention to enter your subconscious and meet with your unresolved archetypes.
Close your eyes, engage spontaneous imagery and see yourself descending a flight of stairs and opening a door to an underground chamber (use the first–person visualisation perspective if at all possible. In other words, see the room and the floors though imagined eyes and yourself not as a separate figure). As you pass though the doorway, allow the scene to unfold if its own accord. Notice how the archetypes present themselves in the form of strange humanlike figures. Allow them to challenge you on at a time about the unresolved issues that have brought them into being. This means facing and communicating with each of these apparitions in turn, trying to reach a resolution by explaining your past actions and motives, accepting any message or lesson they bring, asking forgiveness and recommitting to a new course of action. This could take more than one session.
They will appear to you in a symbolic form which reveals the characteristics of their energy. In other words, a neglected inner child may appear to you in the form of a dirty, impoverished, abused child. It is easy to distinguish an archetype from a guide or other spiritual being, as they will always admit to ‘being part of you’. Once you have resolved each matter satisfactorily, the figure will smile and retreat or fade into the distance. In some cases you may feel the need to actually embrace the archetype (such as picking up your ‘inner child’).
Thank them all for their willingness to share with you and conclude your visualisation by taking back control of the scene. See yourself moving out of the chamber and back up the stairs towards the light. Try to end at the point where you started. Return to your body consciousness by slowly moving your fingers and hands and opening your eyes.
Jimmy Henderson a well-known metaphysical teacher and regular radio talk show guest. He is the author of a number of articles as well as two self-help books entitled ‘Multi-Dimensional Thinking’ and ‘Multi-Dimensional Perception’ which are available at Exclusive books. He is also associated with Metavarsity and based in KZ Natal.
www.jimmyhendersonbooks.com
http://www.kimaglobal.co.za/cgi-bin/go.pl/author_books.html?author_name=Jimmy%20Henderson
By Jimmy Henderson
Symbols are visual forms, patterns, objects, images or even words which carry a deeper meaning and stand in for or represent something else. They are also keys for communicating with, and unlocking the doors of our subconscious minds, and being charged with meaning and emotion, can lead to powerful sensations, impressions and moments of insight.
Each of our personal symbols or images represents a particular memory from our past or a thought, idea, emotion, concern or need. Working with this symbol can trigger the original experience.
Our own set of symbols form a ‘personal code’ and examining dreams is therefore an excellent way of deciphering this code, as they are also assembled using these symbols. When we dream, our subconscious minds are communicating with us by presenting symbolic images in a dramatised and metaphorical form, revealing our innermost needs, fears, conflicts and concerns. This can also happen during spontaneous imagery (visualisation) as well as visions, once again due to the action of our subconscious minds, so the same rules of interpretation will apply (Spontaneous visualisation, or spontaneous imagery, occurs when symbols, figures or changes present themselves in our mental scene spontaneously without our conscious control. This usually happens after many months of working with visualisation).
Symbolism is also applied by our minds when detecting and interpreting the characteristics of incoming energy, whether from other persons or spiritual beings. In other words, any energy impression or presence will also be interpreted in symbolic images using the same process of symbolic interpretation. For example, we may experience different levels of consciousness and power in terms of degrees of light or the size of the figure, in the case of angels or guides. Personality characteristics would probably be revealed by the appearance of the figure (seen as friendly or stern) and so on.
A vision, dream, lucid dream or spontaneously presented visualisation scene therefore contains elements or clues to its message and meaning hidden within its context, structure, form and composition and it is important to be able to identify and interpret these clues.
This can also apply to readings involving other persons as well, but obviously, during these readings, the symbols will not relate to self, but to the other person. There are a number of simple rules that should be remembered in this regard:
• The different symbols, representations and images in our dreams, visions and imagery are formed from our own storehouse of memories and experiences
• Our visions, dreams and imagery will always be assembled using our present paradigm of thinking. In other words, the framework of ideas, beliefs and values through which we each view the world. These paradigms can be scientific, religious or humanistic
• The actual structure of our dreams, visions and spontaneous images is very important. Within each there will be a number of levels or different dimensions, each having its own set of symbols and meanings. Using a process of self-questioning we can unpack the personal meanings that they have for us.
The first dimension : The background of the dream /vision/scene
This should suggest the context or theme of the message.
In this regard, we should ask ourselves the following questions:
‘Was it a recognisable or a strange scene?’
‘Was the scene indoors or outdoors?’
‘Was it light or dark?’
What we see as the background is only a clue to the underlying theme of the
dream/vision/imagery and should not always be taken literally. The idea is find a connection between the background of the scene and our own present circumstances, needs or state of mind (or that of the other person in the case of a reading), by looking at the symbolism involved
Examples:
The sea can be a symbol for the ebb and flow of everyday life and a dream playing out
against the backdrop of the sea would probably suggest a problem or situation arising
in our normal day-to-day lives, one which needs to be resolved.
A scene in a desert (isolated and desolate), may suggest a situation in which we feel
isolated and alone and are seeking assistance or understanding.
A scene playing out in semi-darkness may be indicating a crisis (we are having trouble
seeing our way forward).
Second dimension : The layout of the dream/vision/imagery
The immediate surroundings as seen in the scene provide more information on our present personal situation, state of mind or outlook on the world. In this regard, we need to ask ourselves the following questions:
‘Was there a building in my dream?’
‘What were the characteristics of the building?’
‘Were the windows large or small?
For example:
In ‘looking out’ onto the world, we would normally use the windows of our homes or
offices. And in our dreams, any building in which we find ourselves would be symbolic
(in this case, a metaphor) of ‘where we are’ at the moment.
Consider the following:
A small window could suggest that we have a limited outlook on life
A dark and damp building could relate to our being in an unpleasant situation or having
a negative view of the world
A building or house in shambles could suggest that our present situation, state of mind
or outlook, is chaotic
If there was no building in the dream, vision or imagery, then the message is probably related to some other issue.
Third dimension : The activity
The next symbolic category is the activity taking place in the dream/vision or spontaneous imagery. The type of drama, scenario or situation that is being played out, reveals the content of the message (such as unresolved needs or issues). In this case we need to relate the activity symbolically (metaphorically) to our current situation (or that of our client).
Consider the following examples:
A scene involving travel could be a call for change, the broadening of our boundaries or
the opening of our minds.
A battle or conflict could be referring to a similar conflict situation within ourselves
Any threatening scenario may be a unconscious warning of a matter that requires
resolution urgently, something which is a threat to our mental well-being or inner peace
Fourth dimension : The actual figures and characters presented
Objects or persons (characters) in dream scene, a vision or spontaneous imagery usually represent aspects which relate to ourselves (or archetypes based on our own personalities) (As already stated, during readings with other persons, the figures and objects will not relate to self but to our clients. And in the case of readings, the images can sometimes be more literal).
In all cases, we should ask ourselves the following questions:
‘Was I alone in my dream or were there others?
‘Did I see myself clearly or merely a figure that in some way resembled me?’
‘What aspect of my personality does the figure suggest?’
Identify the attributes of the characters involved.
Were they large or small?, aggressive or loving?, threatening or supportive?
Consider the following examples:
A poor, abused and helpless child could suggest a wounded ‘inner child’ (archetype).
A richly dressed, opulent figure could symbolically point to a desire for riches or even a
trait of greed embodied in an archetypal form (we need to look at the context and the
activities)
We should also examine the type of interaction taking place between ourselves and the figure(s).
Consider the following example:
A battle with another person in a dream could suggest a conflict, weakness or issue
within ourselves that needs to be resolved or overcome.
Fifth Dimension : Objects
Each object in the scene will have a particular symbolic significance which will add detail to
the final meaning of the scene. Objects can often be interpreted in terms of their practical uses or effects in everyday life and applied (metaphorically) to our present situation or path in life.
Consider the following examples:
A large boulder appearing in our path would suggest an obstacle to be overcome (in real-
life one would actually have to climb over the boulder).
A crossroads would suggest a decision to be made.
Once again, the guideline is to consider what we would do in real life if confronted with such a situation or object and rephrase the answer in a symbolic (metaphorical) form. These symbolic interpretations of the background, the layout of the scene, the activities, characters and objects and the meanings we have attached to them, reveal our personal symbolic codes.
Archetypes
By Jimmy Henderson
Archetypes can be described as an accumulation of drives, unfulfilled dreams and desires, suppressed wishes and even aspects of our personalities that need improvement. They are found deep in the subconscious areas of our minds and often appear to us during dreams, meditation or advanced imagery as human or partially human figures due to our mind’s ability to transform energy patterns into recognisable forms using our symbolic processes. In fact, many of the first figures appearing to us during meditation and visualisation will be our own archetypes.
They have an energy basis and an elemental consciousness (derived from our own consciousness) and any area of our lives in which there are unfulfilled desires and feelings can form an archetype and tie up much of our energy. For instance, suppressed feelings of love could give rise to the archetype of ‘the lover’, those parts of us that still require nurturing may gather as our ‘inner child’ and unfortunately, aspirations that have been frustrated and distorted during our lives could accumulate into in a more negative form as a down-and-out ‘victim’ of circumstance.
In order to clear the way for higher consciousness, unwanted archetypes can be balanced or freed using meditation and advanced processes of imagery and their blocked energy released. However, this requires us to work directly with them and this can sometimes be disturbing, as some can appear unpleasant. We will therefore need to put aside our doubts and fears and proceed with total confidence and need to remember that they are only repressed or hidden parts of our own personalities.
The process
If you wish to proceed with clearing and balancing archetypal energy, begin with a meditation to relax and clear your mind. Set an intention to enter your subconscious and meet with your unresolved archetypes.
Close your eyes, engage spontaneous imagery and see yourself descending a flight of stairs and opening a door to an underground chamber (use the first–person visualisation perspective if at all possible. In other words, see the room and the floors though imagined eyes and yourself not as a separate figure). As you pass though the doorway, allow the scene to unfold if its own accord. Notice how the archetypes present themselves in the form of strange humanlike figures. Allow them to challenge you on at a time about the unresolved issues that have brought them into being. This means facing and communicating with each of these apparitions in turn, trying to reach a resolution by explaining your past actions and motives, accepting any message or lesson they bring, asking forgiveness and recommitting to a new course of action. This could take more than one session.
They will appear to you in a symbolic form which reveals the characteristics of their energy. In other words, a neglected inner child may appear to you in the form of a dirty, impoverished, abused child. It is easy to distinguish an archetype from a guide or other spiritual being, as they will always admit to ‘being part of you’. Once you have resolved each matter satisfactorily, the figure will smile and retreat or fade into the distance. In some cases you may feel the need to actually embrace the archetype (such as picking up your ‘inner child’).
Thank them all for their willingness to share with you and conclude your visualisation by taking back control of the scene. See yourself moving out of the chamber and back up the stairs towards the light. Try to end at the point where you started. Return to your body consciousness by slowly moving your fingers and hands and opening your eyes.
Jimmy Henderson a well-known metaphysical teacher and regular radio talk show guest. He is the author of a number of articles as well as two self-help books entitled ‘Multi-Dimensional Thinking’ and ‘Multi-Dimensional Perception’ which are available at Exclusive books. He is also associated with Metavarsity and based in KZ Natal.
www.jimmyhendersonbooks.com
http://www.kimaglobal.co.za/cgi-bin/go.pl/author_books.html?author_name=Jimmy%20Henderson
Monday, August 15, 2011
Motivation and Success
Mind-techniques for motivation and success
By Jimmy Henderson
We all have a subconscious part of our mind which functions as a sort of ‘automatic pilot’ to regulate our bodily functions such as breathing and heartbeat as well as some important mental activities. Throughout our lives we have filled up this subconscious mind with beliefs about ourselves which form unwritten ‘rules’ and govern our thinking and perceptions. The problem is that, if these beliefs are limiting or negative, they can reduce our level of motivation and chances of success.
If we really wish to be self-motivated and achieve success, we have to create the psychological space for this to happen by seeing ourselves as having an almost limitless potential and not allowing ourselves to be governed by these self-imposed limits. Fortunately, research has shown that we can change these negative internal ‘rules’ simply by assimilating powerful new thoughts and ideas about ourselves and the world. And there are a number of subliminal mind-techniques we can use to do this:
Affirmations
Affirmations are positive statements directed at self-empowerment which we repeat to ourselves over and over until they filter through into our subconscious mind where they replace the negative beliefs. For example,
• ‘I release all negative thoughts about myself’
• ‘I am a positive and successful person’
• ‘I will not allow this person, situation or event to hold me back’
• ‘I will not be bothered by the negativity of others’
It often helps to stand in front of a mirror when we do this. Affirmations should be repeated at least three times a day.
Intentions
An intention is more powerful than an affirmation, but requires a very specific state of mind, being a single and precise thought as to exactly what we expect or require from ourselves. It is like an instruction to our subconscious mind. However, it must be simply-worded and unambiguous. It can be said out aloud, or in our minds, but it is useful to begin by stating these intentions verbally until we become used to the process.
Here are a number of examples:
• ‘I now remove all negative thoughts from my mind’
• ‘I now begin this project with the view of success’
• ‘I now open my mind to only thoughts of success’
The power of an intention is that there is no hesitation or doubt, and this is proven by saying it only once with total confidence and conviction, then releasing it by putting it out of our minds. Once we have set the intention, we need to proceed with our next action with the full belief that what we have said, will actually happen.
Meditation
Our state of mind is very important for motivation and success, and we can easily change this by using certain mental exercises. Research has shown that the best state for reducing anxiety and reaching a point of focus, clarity and creativity is the Alpha wave state. This is a low frequency brainwave pattern which has been shown to be ideal for relaxation and working with the mind. When practicing this technique, soft, meditative music can also be played to enhance the effect.
A simple method of reaching this state is by means of slow counting and moving our focus away from our surroundings to our breathing.
For example, sit quietly and comfortably, close your eyes and begin to breathe to a count of one to four. Focus on nothing else but the counting (either aloud or in your mind).
Breathe in 1,2,3,4, hold your breath, 1,2,3,4, breathe out 1,2,3,4, hold your breath 1,2,3,4, breathe in 1,2,3,4, and so on.
Carry on with the counting and breathing until your mind is free of all thought, completely quiet and you feel totally relaxed.
Try to meditate in this way for at least twenty seconds a few times each day. This will help to clear your mind of distractions and provide you with a deeper self-awareness and insight which are useful for decision-making and ultimately, success.
Visualization
Research also shows that our subconscious mind cannot always differentiate between an inner (imagined) experience and an identical real-life situation. An example of this would be the cold sweats, rapid breathing and increased heart-rate we experience during a bad dream.
Second, we all have the power to create a mental picture of any scene or situation within our consciousness. And this has a similar effect on our body and emotional state as what would occur had we experienced this event in real-life. In other words, we can change our negative and limiting internal ‘rules’, as well as de-motivating emotional states, simply by sitting quietly and visualizing ourselves as happy and achieving a goal or a desired outcome in our career.
This sounds a bit like daydreaming, but it is far more focused and powerful, and as I said, can change our subconscious feelings and self-beliefs, making us feel more confident and positive, at least for a while. However, over time these feelings can become embedded in our subconscious and bring about real change. In fact, psychological research has shown that the more positive and confident actions resulting from this exercise can actually become a self-fulfilling prophecy and attract those very situations which we have visualized.
This exercise can also be used in conjunction with a vision-board, in which we paste or stick
cut-out pictures representing our desired successes on a board, and use these pictures as a basis for our visualization.
Jimmy Henderson is a trauma counsellor as well as a well-known metaphysical teacher and regular radio talk show guest. He is the author of a number of articles as well as two self-help books working with the power of the mind entitled ‘Multi-Dimensional Thinking’ and ‘Multi-Dimensional Perception’ which are available at Exclusive books. He is currently completing his MA degree in Cognitive Psychology with UNISA.
By Jimmy Henderson
We all have a subconscious part of our mind which functions as a sort of ‘automatic pilot’ to regulate our bodily functions such as breathing and heartbeat as well as some important mental activities. Throughout our lives we have filled up this subconscious mind with beliefs about ourselves which form unwritten ‘rules’ and govern our thinking and perceptions. The problem is that, if these beliefs are limiting or negative, they can reduce our level of motivation and chances of success.
If we really wish to be self-motivated and achieve success, we have to create the psychological space for this to happen by seeing ourselves as having an almost limitless potential and not allowing ourselves to be governed by these self-imposed limits. Fortunately, research has shown that we can change these negative internal ‘rules’ simply by assimilating powerful new thoughts and ideas about ourselves and the world. And there are a number of subliminal mind-techniques we can use to do this:
Affirmations
Affirmations are positive statements directed at self-empowerment which we repeat to ourselves over and over until they filter through into our subconscious mind where they replace the negative beliefs. For example,
• ‘I release all negative thoughts about myself’
• ‘I am a positive and successful person’
• ‘I will not allow this person, situation or event to hold me back’
• ‘I will not be bothered by the negativity of others’
It often helps to stand in front of a mirror when we do this. Affirmations should be repeated at least three times a day.
Intentions
An intention is more powerful than an affirmation, but requires a very specific state of mind, being a single and precise thought as to exactly what we expect or require from ourselves. It is like an instruction to our subconscious mind. However, it must be simply-worded and unambiguous. It can be said out aloud, or in our minds, but it is useful to begin by stating these intentions verbally until we become used to the process.
Here are a number of examples:
• ‘I now remove all negative thoughts from my mind’
• ‘I now begin this project with the view of success’
• ‘I now open my mind to only thoughts of success’
The power of an intention is that there is no hesitation or doubt, and this is proven by saying it only once with total confidence and conviction, then releasing it by putting it out of our minds. Once we have set the intention, we need to proceed with our next action with the full belief that what we have said, will actually happen.
Meditation
Our state of mind is very important for motivation and success, and we can easily change this by using certain mental exercises. Research has shown that the best state for reducing anxiety and reaching a point of focus, clarity and creativity is the Alpha wave state. This is a low frequency brainwave pattern which has been shown to be ideal for relaxation and working with the mind. When practicing this technique, soft, meditative music can also be played to enhance the effect.
A simple method of reaching this state is by means of slow counting and moving our focus away from our surroundings to our breathing.
For example, sit quietly and comfortably, close your eyes and begin to breathe to a count of one to four. Focus on nothing else but the counting (either aloud or in your mind).
Breathe in 1,2,3,4, hold your breath, 1,2,3,4, breathe out 1,2,3,4, hold your breath 1,2,3,4, breathe in 1,2,3,4, and so on.
Carry on with the counting and breathing until your mind is free of all thought, completely quiet and you feel totally relaxed.
Try to meditate in this way for at least twenty seconds a few times each day. This will help to clear your mind of distractions and provide you with a deeper self-awareness and insight which are useful for decision-making and ultimately, success.
Visualization
Research also shows that our subconscious mind cannot always differentiate between an inner (imagined) experience and an identical real-life situation. An example of this would be the cold sweats, rapid breathing and increased heart-rate we experience during a bad dream.
Second, we all have the power to create a mental picture of any scene or situation within our consciousness. And this has a similar effect on our body and emotional state as what would occur had we experienced this event in real-life. In other words, we can change our negative and limiting internal ‘rules’, as well as de-motivating emotional states, simply by sitting quietly and visualizing ourselves as happy and achieving a goal or a desired outcome in our career.
This sounds a bit like daydreaming, but it is far more focused and powerful, and as I said, can change our subconscious feelings and self-beliefs, making us feel more confident and positive, at least for a while. However, over time these feelings can become embedded in our subconscious and bring about real change. In fact, psychological research has shown that the more positive and confident actions resulting from this exercise can actually become a self-fulfilling prophecy and attract those very situations which we have visualized.
This exercise can also be used in conjunction with a vision-board, in which we paste or stick
cut-out pictures representing our desired successes on a board, and use these pictures as a basis for our visualization.
Jimmy Henderson is a trauma counsellor as well as a well-known metaphysical teacher and regular radio talk show guest. He is the author of a number of articles as well as two self-help books working with the power of the mind entitled ‘Multi-Dimensional Thinking’ and ‘Multi-Dimensional Perception’ which are available at Exclusive books. He is currently completing his MA degree in Cognitive Psychology with UNISA.
Thursday, August 4, 2011
Using intuition for protection
Using Intuition for protection
By Jimmy Henderson
Our bodies have an inherent intelligence with which they are able to communicate with us in the form of sensory cues such as sensations, impressions and feelings. For example, feeling ill after a meal usually suggests that we have eaten something that did not agree with us. And we all experience ‘hunger pains’ or uncomfortable feelings and sensations when we need food or drink. This principle forms the basis of many diagnostic and holistic treatments involving bio-feedback. What is little known is that this ability can be strengthened and improved and used in combination with our intuition to detect emotional or psychological threats as well.
Intuition is a powerful ally in the protection of our physical, emotional, psychological and even spiritual wellness. For instance, I am sure that you have all personally experienced feelings of ‘discomfort’ when entering some places or situations, but did not give them a second thought. These ‘feelings’ are actually intuitive warnings from our subconscious, but in most cases, we simply choose to overlook or ignore them.
Our intuition works in conjunction with our subconscious, which is simply a level of our mind and consciousness of which we are normally not aware. Our subconscious regulates our body functions such as breathing, digestion and heartbeat, but also filters all the sensory information around us, allowing in only that which we need for our everyday tasks. In this way, it is able to protect us from unnecessary stress.
However, our subconscious can also detect, as well as warn us, of any threats to our well-being.
For example, in any situation, especially those involving other people, a number of clues are embedded or hidden in their actions, body language, words and emotions which show their real motives and intentions. Our subconscious can also pick up negativity or negative thoughts directed against us, and though our intuition, is able to provide us with subtle warnings in the form of sensations, feelings, impressions, words or even images.
The following guidelines can assist in your ability to develop your intuition for the purpose of developing your own ‘early-warning’ protective system.
• When entering a situation, relax and clear your mind and set your intention to receive intuitive messages
• Open yourself to any subtle bodily sensations, impressions, thoughts or feelings you are experiencing
• Engage your intuition by comparing these feelings to colours, shapes, textures and scents and asking questions. For example, ‘Is this feeling heavy or light?’; ‘What colour does it suggest?’, Is it ‘round’ and ‘smooth’ or ‘rough’ and ‘spiky’?, ‘Does this give me the feeling of ‘hard’ or ‘fluffy’?’ ‘What does it smell like?’ (fresh and sweet, or dank and dusty?).
• Wait for intuitive answers to all these questions
This kind of symbolic association sounds a little weird but if you apply the principles correctly, your intuition can provide you with very detailed information on the threat that your subconscious is detecting.
For example, your intuition may have compared the situation to the colour ‘grey’, a ‘spiky’ shape, a ‘hard’ texture and a ‘dusty’ smell. All that now remains is now to interpret these associations in terms of your own past experiences. For example, ‘grey’ could suggest a depressing situation (grey clouds), one which could also be dangerous (spiky -spikes are dangerous), difficult to manage (hard -a hard object is usually heavy and not easy to work with) and could be related to old unresolved issues (dusty-as in a neglected house full of memories).
In other words, the intuitive message from your subconscious is that you are in a situation that is depressing, could be dangerous to your physical, emotional or psychological health, would be difficult to resolve and has arisen due to something in your past.
By combining your intuition with your natural subconscious defences in this way, you are able to create a protective early-warning system.
Jimmy Henderson is a metaphysical teacher and the author of a number of books and articles on self-development. His books ‘Multi-Dimensional Thinking’ (2007) and ‘Multi-dimensional Perception’ (2010) are available on Amazon.com and can also be ordered via his website www.jimmyhendersonbooks.com
He is currently completing his Masters degree in Cognitive Psychology.
By Jimmy Henderson
Our bodies have an inherent intelligence with which they are able to communicate with us in the form of sensory cues such as sensations, impressions and feelings. For example, feeling ill after a meal usually suggests that we have eaten something that did not agree with us. And we all experience ‘hunger pains’ or uncomfortable feelings and sensations when we need food or drink. This principle forms the basis of many diagnostic and holistic treatments involving bio-feedback. What is little known is that this ability can be strengthened and improved and used in combination with our intuition to detect emotional or psychological threats as well.
Intuition is a powerful ally in the protection of our physical, emotional, psychological and even spiritual wellness. For instance, I am sure that you have all personally experienced feelings of ‘discomfort’ when entering some places or situations, but did not give them a second thought. These ‘feelings’ are actually intuitive warnings from our subconscious, but in most cases, we simply choose to overlook or ignore them.
Our intuition works in conjunction with our subconscious, which is simply a level of our mind and consciousness of which we are normally not aware. Our subconscious regulates our body functions such as breathing, digestion and heartbeat, but also filters all the sensory information around us, allowing in only that which we need for our everyday tasks. In this way, it is able to protect us from unnecessary stress.
However, our subconscious can also detect, as well as warn us, of any threats to our well-being.
For example, in any situation, especially those involving other people, a number of clues are embedded or hidden in their actions, body language, words and emotions which show their real motives and intentions. Our subconscious can also pick up negativity or negative thoughts directed against us, and though our intuition, is able to provide us with subtle warnings in the form of sensations, feelings, impressions, words or even images.
The following guidelines can assist in your ability to develop your intuition for the purpose of developing your own ‘early-warning’ protective system.
• When entering a situation, relax and clear your mind and set your intention to receive intuitive messages
• Open yourself to any subtle bodily sensations, impressions, thoughts or feelings you are experiencing
• Engage your intuition by comparing these feelings to colours, shapes, textures and scents and asking questions. For example, ‘Is this feeling heavy or light?’; ‘What colour does it suggest?’, Is it ‘round’ and ‘smooth’ or ‘rough’ and ‘spiky’?, ‘Does this give me the feeling of ‘hard’ or ‘fluffy’?’ ‘What does it smell like?’ (fresh and sweet, or dank and dusty?).
• Wait for intuitive answers to all these questions
This kind of symbolic association sounds a little weird but if you apply the principles correctly, your intuition can provide you with very detailed information on the threat that your subconscious is detecting.
For example, your intuition may have compared the situation to the colour ‘grey’, a ‘spiky’ shape, a ‘hard’ texture and a ‘dusty’ smell. All that now remains is now to interpret these associations in terms of your own past experiences. For example, ‘grey’ could suggest a depressing situation (grey clouds), one which could also be dangerous (spiky -spikes are dangerous), difficult to manage (hard -a hard object is usually heavy and not easy to work with) and could be related to old unresolved issues (dusty-as in a neglected house full of memories).
In other words, the intuitive message from your subconscious is that you are in a situation that is depressing, could be dangerous to your physical, emotional or psychological health, would be difficult to resolve and has arisen due to something in your past.
By combining your intuition with your natural subconscious defences in this way, you are able to create a protective early-warning system.
Jimmy Henderson is a metaphysical teacher and the author of a number of books and articles on self-development. His books ‘Multi-Dimensional Thinking’ (2007) and ‘Multi-dimensional Perception’ (2010) are available on Amazon.com and can also be ordered via his website www.jimmyhendersonbooks.com
He is currently completing his Masters degree in Cognitive Psychology.
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Interpreting your dreams intuitively By Jimmy Henderson Intuition can also be used as a method for interpreting dreams. This requires that we keep a dream journal in which as much information about the dream is written down and recorded. Usually we only have a few moments after waking to recall and write down the content of any dream before it fades, but with practice, this can be extended to about ten or twenty seconds. You can simplify your own dream journal by drawing in columns beforehand and labelling them as the ‘theme’ of the dream, the background, colours, persons, objects and ‘activities’ (actions) taking place. When you awaken it will then be easier to just make a few notes in each column. The characteristics of our dreams will always be symbolic and built up from our past experiences and our own unique frameworks or paradigms of thinking. In other words, a religious person will have probably have a religious paradigm and everything will be seen, and probably need to be interpreted, in terms of spiritual or religious ideas. Likewise, a person who is trained in (or at least very interested ) in science, will probably see everything in the dream in more scientific terms, a nature lover in concepts involving nature, and so on. Once you have practiced and have recorded the details of a few dreams, you can begin to apply your intuition to interpreting them. The first step is to prepare your mind for intuition by setting an ‘intent’, that is, asking or telling your subconscious mind to allow you to intuitively interpret this dream. In this regard, see my previous article on this blog titled ‘intuition and our subconscious mind’. What you are looking for is an immediate understanding of the dream without any actual thinking taking place. Quieten your mind as if you were going into meditation, start visualising and try to recall as much of the dream as you can, including the background scene, characters, objects or activities. See it playing out in your mind again. When you are ready, pose the following question to yourself ‘What does this mean?’ Now relax your mind and keep it clear, waiting for an ‘intuition’ to present itself. Be patient and ideas will soon begin to ‘pop into your head’. At first you may think some of the spontaneous thoughts are only your imagination, and sometimes the messages may be confused with normal thinking. However, you must acknowledge all spontaneous thoughts, feelings and impressions received after posing the question, as intuitions. Acknowledge and accept these intuitive thoughts with a sense of gratitude, and you will soon begin to cement the relationship of trust with your subconscious mind. This acknowledgement will also indicate that you are ready and willing to receive intuitive ideas. Record any thoughts and ideas you receive in your journal and compare them to the images you have recorded there as associated with the dream. You may need to think a little initially on the associations between the words and ideas that have presented themselves to you intuitively and the dream images and the information you have recorded in your journal, but once you have perfected the technique, intuitive ideas relating to dreams will flow more easily and freely. This skill can take many months to perfect. Do not be disillusioned if you are not successful at first. Jimmy Henderson is a metaphysical teacher and the author of a number of books and articles on self-development. His books ‘Multi-Dimensional Thinking’ (2007) and ‘Multi-dimensional Perception’ (2010) are available on Amazon.com and can also be ordered via his website www.jimmyhendersonbooks.com He is currently completing his Masters degree in Cognitive Psychology.
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